♠ Marriage and Divorce

Yeap, it's that deep.

Was catching up on some old blogs and just read up bout one blogger who just got divorced. They remaint amicable, for the sake of their child.

Was watching some drama bout this couple who ended up together thru sheer mistake and got a baby in between, and they made the effort just for the sake of the unborn child, which didnt managed to come to the world, they both got separated for couple of years and by sheer fate, ended up together and got another baby in the end.

I guess not many ppl knows what makes or breaks a relationship. But I do know it takes lotsa effort, and love is a novelty that wears out one day. I know cos I lived amongst college kids for a while. Nothing reminds me the fragility of love than a boy over the window of the toilet screaming into the phone mocking promises they made once.

But I'm not a pessimistic realist, I know there are many ppl who found love in each other and by the sheer strength of their memories, live to the ripe age of retirement and beyond.

For the older generation, kids are the glue of their relationships. For the younger generation, kids are the fence between their needs and their partner's needs, and there's a compromise which needs to be made, or sometimes the guy just went missing. And no, I'm not going to talk bout abortion.

I'm more selfish, I want my freedom and I want kids too; a character flaw.

I've asked couples of my married ex-colls and friends, how do they know the person they were marrying, is right for them?

One went into the stories of his group of friends, and how they've known one another for more than 7 yrs, and how one couple got married even tho she cheated on him and he knew, and how another couple didnt end up together cos she couldnt wait any longer and got married first and he, married a bit later with a women he just met. He didnt tell me his story, I dun think he knows his answer.

Another answered that he prayed. For such a big decision, I dun think I'd just pray. Plus he looked sad when he answered me, hmm..maybe not sad, could be humbled.
Anyway, I cant tell, but it didnt sound positive during that time.

One answered she didnt know, but she said yes on the spot. They knew each other a while, but there's no spark. Then she went to study and came back, and something just hit him. They got married straight after study at tender age 21, and she got couples of adorable boys since then.

And a few more after that married due to blunders, which need to be corrected in case there's anybody counting.

I guess when it comes to marriage and divorce, both take a lot of guts to go thru either one. Anyway, I guess happiness is kinda fickle, it comes and goes on it's own accord. But somebody told me that we can hold on to it, though sometimes holding on requires letting go..I'm still figuring the last one.