♠ Helpless #2

I had a headache this morning; a rare event indeed.

And a coll talked to me regardless whether I listen or not.

Like what I said, I had headache even before he started opening his mouth.

Some of his conversation has a message to relay. Sometimes I guessed it right, most of the time I purposely guessed wrongly, cos I wanna know how bold he wanna go with his topic.

And I can say one thing; when they say women nag, men can nag quite well too.

Then he started a topic that ends with "The world do not start and end with web. You have to look outside of web and see other industry. I've been working for 10 years and in many industry."

Yes, I know u have lotsa experience, just keep ur opinion to urself..that's what I wanna answer him.

But I didnt cos I respect that guy.

Instead, I got really heated up. I dun feel angry that often, and this morning incident made me wanted to blow my top.

First, I didnt even open my mouth at all till he said that word "start and end with web".

It seemed as if I've led him to believe that my world is all about web programming, although I did say I was mostly involved in web programming. But never did I say that all industry must use web and web programming is all powerful.

Let me be straight. I dun care what language you choose, I dun care what language ur company uses, end of the day, what tools solve the problems are good tools; "Any cat that catches the rats are good cats". And everybody is entitled to choose their choices, as my coll has every now and then stated his choice, repeatedly to me till my left ear ring.

I retorted, but my voice got pitched and I stuttered. Like what I said, I dun get angry that often.

I guess, my correct retort should be, "Jack of all trades, master of nothing." And keep quiet.

Cos my coll likes learning diff stuff, which is great and I respect that, but for him to actually imply that my world is all about web, well, it's just pure between-the-line-reading and accusing without proof or syok-sendiri.

I will not be judgemental. I will not judge a person based on a day's talking without thinking.

I dont handle anger very well, it gives me headache, it makes me say things I'll regret later, it makes me do things I will hate myself later.

Sometimes that coll can really talk without thinking so much for other ppl listening. And he's not really that popular tho his skills are good. Cos his usual statements are:
1. I've worked for 10 yrs, trust me.
2. I do not agree that JAVA/PLSQL/Etc is the only language to use (with shaking of his head and usually repeated with "I dont agree at all"). <= This for sure will anger all the teams in my curr com cos they are consisting of largely JAVA & PL/SQL teams, my that coll really is commiting harakiri with his statement at times, and his first statement makes me shut my mouth.

Sometimes, a person can commit suicide just by shooting off their mouth.