♠ Being Eldest

Being eldest in a family..my family, denotes making ways and forgiveness.

I've been comparing what other eldests do in their families.

The usual would be the privilege to bully the younger siblings, making orders and occasionally taking the heat for the siblings.

I do all of the above, but I dont get away with it. My siblings would complain to mum and she'd tell me to make way for them coz they are young, as I'm older therefore I should know better and forgive them.

So, I've been doing all that due to ignorance mostly. Slowly I realise, hey, we are not 8 or 12 or 18 anymore. We are now nearing the end of our twenties or early thirties.

Thus, this makes me wonder; Should I make way again if a sibling behaves out of line or disrespectful. I dont think so.

As adults, I think it's a responsibility to not behave like a selfish person and try our damnest best to put ourselves in other ppl's shoes and try to be as considerate as possible. Like caring for one another's feelings and try to listen more than talk and reflect on that.

I dont think that all those years of being siblings and making bad behaviour and getting away with it would be easily forgiven as we grow older.

In fact, my memory gets better and I kind of becoming less ignorant.

I can say no to making ways. I can stop forgiving repeatitive misgiving behaviours. I can choose to stop being considerate or care for the person.

Having blood relationship doesnt give a person any right to react selfishly and think of "I" and take family relationships for granted. "Us" must always come first, or else a team will break.

The privilege with younger siblings is they got the eldest and parents watching out for them.

I wonder who's watching out for the eldest. GOK.