I'm at an age where I like to analyse and summarise what I hear.
So, I speak less and hear more in terms of how a person speaks; their face expression and how their actions correspond to what they say.
It's extremely useful in the meeting room, personal life, and how other ppl speaks of that particular person.
I live most of my life with certain ppl who dont understand me or listen to me at all. When I say listen; summarise my personality.
I like to talk good things, listen to good things, take great pleasure amongst good things coz I dont need other ppl to pile on negative things which I've known already.
I dont necessary behave the positive things I say, coz I said them to make me feel better, even if that means I'm a hypocrite; that's fine. I try to be a better person coz if I keep on saying good things; I was hoping the apple wont fall far from the tree, meaning I can be a little bit of that good things which I said.
I also hope my siblings would try to learn a bit of that good things I say, but that's the same as hoping for them to put on a mask to please myself. Coz they are not me; I'm not them. I hope they'd get the lessons faster coz I wont be around much.
So, I try another method of learning to live life harmoniously.
After "listening" or summarising a person's behaviour, I'd learn more bout their boundaries; certain things which I can avoid when communicate with them coz if I toed too close to the boundaries, I can see their face crinkling, frowns forming, negative things coming out of their mouth or smoke out of their ears.
Everybody has privacy boundaries, comfortable zone and pleasure sensors.
To know of the boundaries and still step on them or say things to provoke a person; then I got to question why do I insist on poking the beehive when I know most beehives dont like being poked.
Do I want to evoke jealousy? Do I want to poke at them to see how easily I can make other ppl feel angry? Why do I do that?
Do I want to feel magnamous for stepping on other ppl's toes and get scolded at then gleeful on the inside? Why do I like to punish myself or put myself in that position?
Do other ppl feeling unhappy or mad makes me happy? What kinds person does that makes me?
I have a colorful childhood, and I read ppl's face pretty fast. So, I tend to learn the boundaries faster too.
At work, I'd question and see expressions; certain ppl behave in certain patterns which doesnt correspond to their sayings. But from there, I learn who has good intentions, controversial intentions, know-it-all intentions, etc.
I rely on ppl with good intentions, wary of those who doesnt deliver those good intentions and avoid those with controversial intentions coz one never know what their motives are. The know-it-all intentions ppl usually speaks more than they actually do; so I listen only half to what they are saying coz they usually parrot what other ppl said instead of their own opinions, so basically; they say everything but means nothing coz it's not their opinions.
There's one lesson I find persist; do to others what we'd like others do us. It's almost magical sometimes. And I have a lot of wonderful memories which have to be felt instead of told.
Treating other ppl with respect and kindness can have a lot of intangible returns which could present itself at the most surprising of times. Treat living beings with niceties without expecting much or based on a religion or colors or species; is a lesson which never ceases to amaze me.
This is me, re-affirming to myself; I'll live life amazingly.
