What actually warrants that action?
A cold dismissive voice?
An uncommunicative partner?
A take for granted brush off of importance of another person?
Or something even deeper?
An emasculation of a human being; taking out the importance of a person and make them feel small, unimportant, not worth respect and vulnerable?
What makes a person vulnerable, emotionally shattered and broken self-esteem?
God, I wish it's menopause. At least that's forgiving than character.
Here's to God; You do make the best stories..and tragedies.
I wonder if given the chance to roll back time; what can we do to avoid the result of such action.
What would you do to avoid the action of being slapped by a slipper if you are given a chance to turn back the clock? A second chance to change things.
If you are answering; "I wouldnt do anything differently", then I think you deserve a better life. Any life is better than being slapped by a slipper. Coz it's your character to be who you are; unwilling to change to suit another human being, be it the person you love or loved..children are just excuses. The children mostly grow up learning the unhealthy relationship is normal and happens to everyone, even when it isnt.
If you are answering; "I would've done something differently", then I think your relationship deserve saving coz you still believe in something good out of it. That you are willing to change for that person, that you want to save that relationship. Just remember it's a thin line between victim of abuse and loving a person; the line draws at losing the meaning of yourself. The first time you think of "What am I doing"; get help coz obviously you dont know being slapped by a slipper is a bad thing.
If you are answering; "What can I do", then I think you should start asking questions and finding answers. Being silent, thinking things will go away, tomorrow will be a better day, everything's fine, it's just a normal day, everybody's going through the same thing anyway; you deserves help and so does he. A healthy relationship doesnt involve each person trying to put each other down, making the worst out of each other, blaming game, pushing responsibilities, using work/drink/club/drugs to forget the pain or negative feelings. A healthy relationship nurture, respect, compromise and it's a two way street, both gives and takes at the same time. If one takes too much; it's called being selfish. Gives too much; it slowly leads to victimology coz you dont think you deserve good things in your life.
If you are being silent; you are in deep shit. Coz you dont know what or how you feel about it; means you havent made up your mind, whether you like it or hate it or endures it. If you like it; you are a drama person, check yourself into the nearest mental hospital. If you hate it; you'll live the life you always wanted faster if not today. If you plan to endure it, word of advice; Dont coz nobody appreciates somebody who is just waiting for slap by the other slipper.
"Being an adult is knowing where the line is." - ngy
